What is the 3-3-3 rule for kittens?
Written by
Victoria Hayes
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Prof. Edward Clarke, Ph.D.The 3-3-3 Rule is a method explaining how a kitten will adapt to its new home. The process can be broken down into three phases, each of which involves emotions and a specific behavioral set. Knowing how that adaptation should look will help you prepare your home for your newly adopted feline friend. Your patience during this process will help forge a true bond of trust.
First 3 Days: Decompression
- Your kitten feels overwhelmed in the new environment. They need a quiet safe space to hide.
- Limit interactions to essential care only during this initial shock period.
- Place food water and litter box near their hiding spot for easy access.
- Avoid forcing contact or introducing other pets during this fragile phase.
Next 3 Weeks: Routine Building
- Gradually introduce household areas one room at a time.
- Establish consistent feeding times and play sessions daily.
- Begin short positive handling sessions to build trust.
- Introduce family members slowly using calm voices and treats.
Final 3 Months: Trust Formation
- Your kitten now considers your home their territory.
- Expand their access to entire living spaces safely.
- Strengthen bonds through regular interactive play and grooming.
- Introduce visitors and new experiences at their comfort level.
Establish a dedicated safe space in this initial phase as well, ideally a small quiet room such as a bathroom, filled with familiar scented blankets from their previous home, plastic hiding boxes, and no-stimulation toys. This will significantly reduce their initial anxiety.
In the second phase, reward with treats. Use clicker training to teach basic commands in a fun way. Introduce scratching posts and climbing trees. Ensure they have a regular mealtime. These routines provide a sense of security, while also helping your cat understand the house rules during training.
Indications of successful adjustment include purring with being handled and relaxed body language. You may notice your kitten starts to greet you at the door. They may institute more play sessions. These behaviors indicate a greater level of comfort and trust.
Some kittens need longer periods in certain stages. Rescue kittens, or those with certain traumas, may need even more time. You should never punish behaviors that are based on fear. Instead, reinforce any behaviors that encourage confidence through positive experiences. Your understanding is what truly matters.
Ultimately, the 3-3-3 rule fosters a strong, lifelong bond. Your kitten learns that you are a dependable source for safety and care. This solid groundwork serves as a preventive tool for future behavioral changes. You are rewarded for the effort you have devoted to being a well-behaved cat.
Read the full article: Kitten Developmental Milestones Explained Simply
